So you’re mad? Oh

Why do you care when your children get mad at you? You are their parent not their friend. Yes you have to provide for them and give them what they need, but you don’t have to kiss their behinds and give them what they want when they want it. Stop making yourself feel guilty. No you are not wrong for saying no or not now. You are the parent and you make the decisions, if your child/children don’t like the decisions you make too darn bad!

Children young or old need to be thankful and grateful for all you have done for them. They can really put a whammy on you and try to make you think you are failing them as a parent, well this isn’t so. The only way you can fail is to raise them to be ungrateful spoiled brats that thinks the world revolves around their desires. I mean Geesh, what’s in the food these days or is it the milk? Even our toddlers have learned to impose their will to get what they want.

Listen, stop it right now, enough is enough. Once you have made your decision, stick to it. Stop being bullied by your own offspring, it’s not fair to you. If you don’t stop it now it will get worse and your little monsters will turn into big monsters and the small headaches will become severe migraines caused by uncalled-for stress. Nip that mess in the bud to alleviate the heartache and trouble.

Yes you are a great parent, and yes you do love your child/children and you’re sure of it. Don’t think for one second they don’t know that by all that you’ve done and sacrificed. The manipulation is real. They have already programmed you to feel guilty the minute you say no. This is why whether you’re a single parent or a two parent family home, stick to your decision. Don’t be an enabler, don’t be the reason why your child/ children can’t take no for an answer. It will cause them greater harm down the road to come.

To my wonderful readers those of you who are parents, this was not written to tell you how to raise you child/ children, but to encourage you. If you have or are experiencing any of what I’ve mentioned, it’s time to take control. You talk about the gang violence in the world, but some of you have child gangs right in your own home, this ought not to be. Stand up and be the leader you were created to be. Say no and feel confident about your decision, and hey don’t think I’m so tough. I can only write these things because of what I’ve experienced. Say this to yourself about your child/children “so you’re mad?”. So what!

I guarantee you this will prepare your child/children for life’s rejections and disappointments!

Thanks for the read, I only hope that this has helped somebody!

Please like, share, or comment!

Six hours to pursue your dreams!

You do the math. You have 24hrs in one day. It will take you on average 30 minutes to get dressed, or maybe even an hour at most. Consider at least 1hr to travel to work and more than likely 8hrs to work. After you get off add another 1hr to travel back home. Leaving you a total of 13 unused hours. Now the average person gets at least six to seven hours of sleep so subtract the seven hours since it’s the highest from the total of 13.  If calculations are correct in which they are, you have six hours to pursue your dream.

Keep in mind the calculations are based only on an individual who is currently working a full time job with a fourty hour work week. Of course for those of you who are not working you have much more time to work on your dream and to fulfill it. However, as for the full time workers there are at least six hours of unused time remaining in your day. Now I know this doesn’t seem like much time, but a little time well spent on pursuing your dream is much more valuable than a lifetime of time doing nothing.

So you have at least six hours give or take to get something done. Now say to yourself, “self how can I utilize this time to get me closer to my dream? What can I do? What can I work on? What are the necessary steps that I need to take to get me closer?”. Some of you have dreams that you have already started, but you put them on the back burner and you left them there, and some of you have a dream but you have never began to pursue it. Well those necessary steps can’t all be taken at once, but you can certainly start with step number one, it’s never too late!

Utilize this unused time to write the vision and make it plain. Without the vision you have no plan, without a plan you have no direction, and without direction you have absolutely no idea which way your going to get anything done. Use your time wisely and be consistent and disciplined, reliable and dependable on you. It’s important that you can trust yourself with your dream. Speak to those things which be not, as though they were, (Romans 4:17). There is power in positive confession.

Now I know some of you will say after reading this I still have no time, but what is it that you don’t have time to do? Plan for a better future for your family? Take the necessary steps, whatever the necessary steps are to pursue your dreams? You don’t have time to with six hours give or take to sit down and re-evaluate where you are as opposed to where you would like to be? Which of these would be a waste of your time?

Six may not be the number of hours you need to pursue your dream, but you do have a number. Find out what that number is and use it.  You have all the tools you need to get started, space, time, and opportunity. So get started!

I hope this read has been an inspiration and encouraging.




Talk or Text?

Which one do you prefer?

Not so long ago you couldn’t wait to hear the telephone ring. Why? Because you were expecting a call from a potential employer, friend or family member. When the phone rang in the house, everyone ran for the phone and couldn’t wait to see who it was on the other end. Sometimes, it was someone we wanted to talk to and sometimes it was bill collectors. Some of you only had one telephone in the house and somebody was always hogging the phone. It just wasn’t enough telephone to go around.

To many the phone was like their electronic best friend. When you were upset with your family or something else, you had the use of the landline. You’d make a call to someone close to you and tell them what was going on. You just wanted to hear a familiar voice of someone who would listen and possibly give the answers to your personal problems. It was even something about the ring of the phone; when the phone rang, everyone stopped what they were doing and it got their undivided attention just for the moment. Everybody would want to know if it was for them. 

Yup! Those were the good ol’ days! You could have real conversations with real people and actually discern which direction the conversation was headed by the tone of their voice. Their voice expressed emotions and feelings, which made the conversation more personal. Real live phone calls kept families tightly knitted together, although nothing beats a visit in person. Nowadays you don’t call you send a quick text and sometimes people don’t get your text. Therefore leaving a possible urgent matter unanswered. 

So as a result you have become disconnected to the ones you love and are dearest to. Technology has crept in unaware and is now your mediator and or intercessor. A simple text may cause you to stop talking to someone close to you because most texts are followed by improper communication and complete misunderstanding. For example, you text someone who is a very fast typer, they ask you a question and before you can answer they have already responded with something else, or even a different subject leaving you completely clueless. Texting interrupts the flow of a good conversation. This happens all too often and it’s annoying.  Texting has allowed you to get away with as little verbal communication as possible. 

On the other hand you should consider how talking on the phone expresses sincerity and dedication of your time and undivided attention to the conversation and to the person your talking to. Talking is not as time consuming as texting an entire conversation, and sometimes it’s just nice to hear a voice. I mean what’s the point of you having a voice if it can’t be heard? Isn’t that why you were given one in the first place? So you can use it?

Don’t you wanna hear the voice of someone else, so you don’t have to jump through hoops to figure out what they’re talking about? What will be our next means of communication Morris Code? I certainly hope not. I wish some things had never changed, althrough change can be good and sometimes necessary, this modern day frame of reference you call texting, has caused you to become desensitized, dehumanized, and unpersonalized robotic machines of flesh. You desire less and less to reach out the old fashion way.

Well ok I guess by now you’ve figured out which one I prefer. This is why I felt the need to write this because it was heavy on my heart. It saddens me how the times have really changed.  I only hope that after you read this you will consider not a text but a phone call to your love ones. Let them hear your voice, your voice will show them that you care and are concerned about their well being and that you love them. You have got to somehow get back to the way things should be!

So again my question to you is which one do you prefer talk or text? Please feel free to respond and give your thoughts on this topic. Thanks for the read.

My natural!